Mississippi Moments

Wednesday, March 02, 2011

Found this in an article about what to do when you become disheartened by a job search that seems to be going nowhere. That isn't my issue. I just found this list to be appealingly concrete. I shall choose to apply its principles to a couple of my "Dreams"...then we shall see. The 4 "R's" approach to late winter and maybe upcoming spring seem to be working(Relax, Regroup, Restore, & Rejoice). Even if my pants don't fit properly, I am thankful to have pants, to have a working body upon which to squinch said pants, enjoy having matching socks for the sitcheeashun, and to be walking, walking, dancing some, and more walking in the longer lighter days and eves.
On to the actual bit of the article--think it might be from the Seattle Times...

So, you're asking, what should I do?

1. Interrupt your current thought pattern. Shut off that internal dialog by changing your activity. Does swinging a golf club take your mind off negativity? Is it doing yoga, calling a best friend, getting outdoors or reading fiction?

2. Devise a plan. Unless you move forward, the negativity is going to hold you back. Even if you haven't figured everything out, don't use the excuse that you're "soul-searching." I know folks who are in their late sixties who are still soul-searching. It will never end. You have to sketch out your future in order to give yourself the light at the end of the tunnel. Some books call it "vision boarding," some call it simply creating a list of what you want. You need to do more than just pure positive-thinking, though. I suggest you come up with an actionable plan, no matter how imperfect it might be.

3. Find a knowledgeable, motivated, and successful peer group. You won't be able to carry yourself forward all the time because you won't have all the answers, motivation or knowledge required to be successful. But others will. Take advantage of their generosity and surround yourself with those who can help you.

4. Give yourself a break. This situation is temporary. We've all been through this; chances are we'll go through it again. It means nothing about you, your self-worth or how good you are. As some say, "life happens." No matter how difficult and stressful this process may be, find a way to make this positive for yourself. See it as a journey to your brighter future.

I've coached enough people to see that at the end, everyone succeeds. Some are more fortunate than others, but if you follow these suggestions, you can dramatically shorten your transition time.


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